My Experience on the Kelly Clarkson Show

On August 10th, 2018, I had the honor of being a part of the new Kelly Clarkson Show that’s currently airing on NBC. This was the pilot episode, so I had no idea what to expect. I also can’t believe how fast the year went! I accepted the offer to be on the show because I’ve always loved Kelly. In my opinion, I've always believed her to be a kind, sincere, and humble woman. I was so thrilled that she proved me right! 

"The Kelly Clarkson Show" is daytime's newest destination for humor, heart, and connection, featuring three-time Grammy® Award-winning singer/songwriter, mother, and America’s original idol, Kelly Clarkson. It presents the biggest newsmakers and names in film, television, and music; as well as emerging new talent and people who are beacons of hope in their communities. 

When I arrived at Universal Studios and saw the set, it was almost like I had walked into my very own dream. This dream was bright with positivity flowing through the air. As I scanned the room I began to notice all of the details. This could have been my show, so much so that I had goosebumps. The back wall was a mural of sunflowers that symbolize my father and are my favorite, and the letters KC were displayed as if they were representing KitCait. For real, I wanted to grab a mic and start the show!

As I sat in the studio audience I felt overwhelmed with a mix of emotions. I was visualizing, reflecting, and appreciating the moment I was in. Kelly really sparked a fire within me through her authentic words and presence. I was inspired and touched by so many different parts of the show. 

Terry Crews was one of the guests that day, and to be honest, I didn't know all that much about him except for the basics, like that he was a football player in the NFL and is a successful actor. To my surprise, he made such a huge impact on me that day. He shared his personal “Me Too” story, and really shared it from his heart. I was moved. I was in shock. Tears poured from my eyes like a waterfall. 

His story hit home like a ton of bricks, and that a man of his social standing had been through that made me feel sad. It made me feel sad because I now realized how big this “Me Too” issue really is, and that we are not alone. He spoke from a place of strength and when I listened to him I truly felt empowered.

What this experience taught me is that sharing from a place of peace and strength can and will empower others. When I began to share my family story on how we faced the adversity of my father’s quadriplegia, I was still grieving and processing. It wasn’t until I discovered a new way for myself to cope that sped up the process. It took me years and years to be at peace with that part of my life, but this time around I was better prepared to face and process the events I survived, so that’s what I'm still doing.

I want to help you face adversity through positivity. Terry Crews made a point to express that he is not a victim, he is a survivor. That is what really resonated with me. No one deserves to feel hurt, not good enough or defeated. Never. We must rise up together to impact the world in a positive way. That’s why I’ve made it my mission to make a lasting positive impact on others by sharing my personal stories. 

Our experiences don’t have to define us, but they will shape us, so let all things, good and bad, help shape you into the best you. You are not, and never will be alone. 

It’s one thing to have a bad day yet quite another to fall on tough times. This is something I’ve had a lot of experience with. I’m talking about the days when it’s hard to get out of bed, not knowing how you’re going to make it through the day. These are the days when it feels like the world is crumbling down around you. Yet, these are the times that shape your character and show you what you’re made of. 

Unfortunately, for most of us, there comes a time when we will experience a major setback. Whether we’re confronted by a personal tragedy, or struck by an uncontrollable event, these are the times that test our will and our spirit.

Everyone reacts to these situations differently. Some people get angry, feel sorry for themselves, and cast blame, while others remain calm, create an action plan to move forward, and look optimistically ahead. The fact is, the way you respond to these situations in the short term can impact your long-term success and happiness.

As George S. Patton said, “The test of success is not what you do when you are on top. Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.”

If I can leave you with any advice it would be this: 

When you go to react, stop. Take a breathe, maybe wait a day, or a week to respond. Take however long you need to know your truth. Reactions can often leave darkness in their path. They typically don’t articulate the truth or show strength. Think about how you respond, and if you wait, you may be able to communicate more clearly. 

So what do tough times say about you? Please leave your comments below, and don’t forget, we’re in this together.